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Sunday, June 05, 2011

Respectism and The Endeavour for a Mutually Respectful Society

















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espectism is the belief that a mutually respectful society is a pragmatic necessity for our survival.

When we talk about containing pollution or genocide or nuclear weapons, it is surprising that we have not recognized the central truth: We are the problem.

At this late date, too few have recognized the most basic political issue: Our human family, living in the thin strip of life painted on this planet, must get along better, or we will kill ourselves off.

Until the truth about the universal need for a mutually respectful society is recognized and addressed by enough of us, we will never be able to solve the perilous riddle of how to survive our weapons and our waste.

Respectism defines a mutually respectful society as one in which enough of us are cooperating to help each other balance the three everyday, instinctual elements of respect: respect for self, others and place.

Respect for self honors the individual will to survive and thrive, respect for others honors the humanity of all human beings and honors the life that surrounds us, respect for place honors everything from a shared table to shared earth, water and air.

The respectism Venn diagram presents respect as a centering of three values that usually overlap, but which are not the same, honestly admitting that true respect is a skill to be developed over a lifetime.

Not everyone is ready to believe that a more respectful society is essential to our survival.

Throughout history, there have been selfish and mean leaders, those who have willingly followed them, and those who have said we will never change.

Those of us who believe that a more respectful society is essential and possible will want to do the following.


First, Respect for Others, Self and Place must be universally and sincerely advertised and promoted as a value for all.

Second, those who abuse and oppress others must be respectfully kept from power, and the behavior patterns of those who obtain power through fear, abuse, exploitation of prejudice and distortion of principles must be commonly recognized in order to assist with that endeavour.

Third, fair dealing, based on listening dialogue, honest negotiation, and equality must be promoted as the mechanism for creating a respectful society in public and private settings including justice for all, representative leadership and governance, economic exchange, the meeting of basic human needs, friendship, family and love.

Fourth, the success of a respectful society must be measured by the decrease of all acts and threats of violence and involuntary detention, including those needed for true self-defense of the individual or society, as well as by the decrease of hunger and homelessness, and in the quality of our air, land and water.

Fifth, the principles of a respectful society must be kept simple and clear enough for young children to learn, adults to believe and the vulnerable to own as well as the powerful, so that respectism is never confused with an illusion of respectability, or authoritarianism, or made the enemy of liberty. 


If a mutually respectful society seems like an idealistic fantasy, please answer this question: "How will we survive without changing our behavior towards one another?"

No one knows exactly how we will create a society truly based on respect for self, others, and place anymore than the inventors of the first flying machine could have imagined a space shuttle.

We must start performing countless experiments in respect, if we are to survive.

We should start now.
 


Love is the soul of respect, and respect is the language of love.




18 comments:

  1. thanks RitH...good to see you on EFA again

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  2. Anonymous1:12 PM

    I agree, but we have more than a tough row to hoe. All wars are fought by making the humans to be fought "the other," lesser beings. Even Obama, who we thought was more evolved, continues a policy of disrespect.

    I have thought for a long time that ethics, or call it respect, should be taught from kindergarten through college.

    There appears to be a dark side in many humans that can be inflamed and manipulated by people who profit. I believe those profiteers are trying to dumb down Americans, not teach critical thinking and certainly not teach respect.

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  3. Anonymous2:04 PM

    Amen, Brother Ben...

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  4. Anonymous2:22 PM

    After reading Jonahtan Roth "The History of War" I doubt that there is a chance for what you are talking about? Great idea, but human nature is geared to conflict for a series of reasons, religion, greed, envy, gold, food, water, and on and on.

    They also like the Zetas like to mess people up for fun. Even the Buddhists have war like tendencies at times. The Zen in Japan who led the Japanese in WWII. CL

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  5. Anonymous2:23 PM

    You are truly a wise man with this. I support your wisdom wholeheartedly.
    Bless you and may you and yours be well. I am sharing this on FB

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  6. Anonymous2:24 PM

    Thanks Respect is the Hub...this is a good one.

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  7. Anonymous10:00 PM

    respect is love

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  8. The phrase, "...so that respectism is never confused with authoritarianism, or made the enemy of liberty and equality.", has been added to the original post.

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  9. The phrase "...including governance, economic exchange and the meeting of basic human needs." has been added to the original post.

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  10. The following sentence has been replaced by the one that presently appears in the essay:

    "Third, since the success of a respectful society will be measured in the decrease of all acts and threats of violence, violence must be actively discouraged and aggression wisely channeled, while allowing for a true, humble and least-violent self defense as a last resort."

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  11. The phrase beginning "the abusive must be respectfully kept from power" was moved from "Fourth" to "Second" in position.

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  12. The phrase:

    "Third, fair dealing, based on listening dialogue and honest negotiation, must be promoted as the mechanism for creating a respectful society in public and private life including leadership, governance, economic exchange and the meeting of basic human needs."

    was modified from:

    Third, fair dealing, based on listening dialogue and honest negotiation, must be promoted as the norm in governance, economic exchange and the meeting of basic human needs.

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  13. The phrase below was added:

    "...as well as the decrease of hunger, homelessness and other unattended basic human needs."

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  14. Below is the complete previous essay which was revised on 7-10-16. Prior revisions are also noted above.
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    Respectism and the Endeavour for a Respectful Society

    Respectism is the belief that a respectful society is a pragmatic necessity for survival.

    A respectful society is defined as a society based on individual and institutional respect for self, others and place.

    When we talk about containing pollution or genocide or nuclear weapons, it is surprising that we have not recognized the central truth: We are the problem.

    At this late date, too few have recognized the most basic political issue: We have got to get along better, or we will kill ourselves off.

    There is a failure of respect among the human beings that connects the big fist hitting the child next door to the bomb that goes off in the crowd on the other side of the world.

    Until the truth about the universal failure of basic respect is recognized and addressed by enough of us, we will never be able to solve the perilous riddle of how to survive our weapons and our waste.

    Not everyone is ready to believe that a more respectful society is essential to our survival.

    Throughout history, there have been selfish and mean leaders, those who have willingly followed them, and those who have said we will never change.

    For a more respectful society to exist, those of us who believe basic respect should be extended to all human beings, and to our fragile home under the sky, will want to do the following.

    First, individual and institutional respect for self, others and place will have to be relentlessly advertised.

    Second, the abusive must be respectfully kept from power, and the personality types of those who rule through fear, abuse, exploitation of prejudice and distortion of principles must be commonly recognized in order to assist with that endeavour.

    Third, fair dealing, based on listening dialogue and honest negotiation, must be promoted as the mechanism for creating a respectful society in public and private relationships including leadership, governance, justice, economic exchange, the meeting of basic human needs and love.

    Fourth, the success of a respectful society must be measured in the decrease of all acts and threats of violence and involuntary detention including those needed for true self-defense of the individual or society, as well as the decrease of hunger, homelessness and other unattended basic human needs.

    Fifth, the principles of a respectful society must be kept simple and clear enough for young children to learn, adults to believe and the weak to own as well as the powerful, so that respectism is never confused with authoritarianism, or made the enemy of liberty and equality.

    If a respectful society seems like an idealistic fantasy, please answer this question: "How will we survive without changing our behavior towards one another?"

    No one knows exactly how we will create a respectful society anymore than the inventors of the first flying machine could have imagined a space shuttle.

    We must start performing countless experiments in respect, if we are to survive.

    We should start now.

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  15. Hello.

    An essay with a similar conclusion, but different perspective, has been posted on earthfamilyalpha in 2017.

    The link to the essay, The Big Picture on Saving Our Tiny Home, is below:

    http://earthfamilyalpha.blogspot.com/2017/10/the-big-picture-on-saving-our-tiny-home_25.html?m=0

    May this day find you well.

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  16. The sentence reading:

    "First, individual and institutional respect for self, others and place will have to be relentlessly advertised."

    has been changed to:

    "First, Respect for Others, Self and Place must be universally advertised and promoted as a value for all."

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  17. "respectful society" changed to "mutually respectful society"

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  18. "No one knows how we will create a respectful society..." changed to "No one knows how we will create a society truly based on respect for self, others, and place..."

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