Frank Alan Osborne 1946-2019
About three weeks ago, I got a call from my brother's son. He asked me if I knew about my older brother Frank. I responded that I had just talked with him on Friday, but tell me what's happening.
Apparently, Frank was rushed to the hospital there in Dallas on Tuesday morning after a really bad night. It was now Thursday, so I booked a ticket for an evening flight to Dallas and rearranged my schedule to make it happen. I called Frank and he answered sounding a little out of breath but basically more or less OK. I wondered if maybe his son was a little over reacting to talk about DNR's with the doctors.
When I got to Dallas, I called again after checking into the Melrose Hotel. He was tired so I caught some dinner. The next day, I got to his room just in time to watch a covey of white coats come into the room. The head doctor asked if she could be frank with me in the room. Frank made a joke, then corrected his tongue in cheek response. As she was getting into to her speech about how grave his condition was, Frank interrupted, "Now let's not be so pessimistic, I intend to be out of here by Saturday or so."
Frank had been a successful businessman for 45 years and he was not about to be told he was going to pass.
Later that afternoon, after spending 4 or 5 hours of quality time together, I left thinking I would catch the flight back to Austin so I wouldn't miss a dinner engagement with friends. When I got in the hotel car, I began to sob, and I realized what a dumb plan that was. I went back to the Hotel and called my Dr. partner and asked her to fly up to Dallas too. We spent the next 2 days with Frank and his wife and family.
When we left, he said, "I'm going to make your 70th Birthday party in September."
For the next week, I called him everyday and listened as his voice grew weaker and his need for oxygen increased. His lungs were basically shot. Then he went into intensive care. Then he got a Tracheotomy. The Staff infection in his lungs was on its way to another morbid victory.
Frank was three years older than me. Once, when I was four, while living in Amarillo, a bully named Craig, pulled us both in our little red wagon out into the large sticker laden vacant lot that would someday be Wolflin Village. Craig then left us in the sticker patch barefooted. I remember Craig laughing as he walked away. Frank pulled us both to safety, he doing the pulling, me doing the crying.
As a young man Frank was credited with saving the life of the foreman of the Chambers Ranch as a sand bank collapsed burying the crew. Frank was a trained Eagle Scout and his quick response and mouth to mouth resucitation brought Mr Schaef back from apparent death.
When he was three years old, he found a picture of Jesus and asked Aunt Francie who is this? Francie said, "that's Jesus Christ". Frank responded, "well it's a good picture of him".
Thus began Frank's long life of opinion.
When I graduated from high school, we went to Europe together for three months. We traveled to Rome, to Paris, to London, to Munich, and all over in our $450.00 red Volkswagon. Frank accidentally hit a bicyclist in Italy which almost got problematic.
Frank and I were business partners in conjunction with our
mother. We bought real estate in Austin, fed cattle in the panhandle, and bought oil deals in Oklahoma. And even though we had been room mates in college, and I had been his best man in his marriage, we pretty much drifted apart in the eighties. And it wasn't until about 10 years ago, that we found each other again.
That came about for several reasons; one, my therapist brought me to understand that hating your brother for his political beliefs wasn't that smart, and two, Frank joined AA. Also, our
mother passed.
On Saturday August 10th, I once again headed for Dallas thinking that we were somewhere between the beginning of the end and the end of the end. It was the latter.
Frank passed at 7:09 there in the Clements Southwestern Hospital. He was surrounded by his wife, son, daughter, grandson, daughters in law, son in law, a former business partner, and his
younger brother who knew him longer than any of them. But they knew him better.
Here is their version that they posted as his obituary:
Frank Alan Osborne, faithful husband, devoted father, and beloved
grandfather, peacefully passed into the Kingdom of God on Saturday,
August 10, 2019. He was in the loving presence of his wife and family.
Frank was born in Amarillo, Texas, on June 27, 1946. The firstborn son
of Joan Chambers Osborne of Canadian, Texas, and Jack Harold Osborne of
Miami, Texas, Frank spent his youth earning his Eagle Scout badge,
learning to ranch and wrestling up trouble on the wide-open ranch lands
of the Texas Panhandle.
Outside of school, ranch work and play, one of
his favorite pass-times was smoking cigarettes, a hobby he took up at
the age of 14. Hours before Frank’s passing, he asked, please write in
my obituary that I died from lung cancer, pulmonary embolism, pneumonia,
and emphysema. We expect he wanted this written as a public service
announcement against smoking.
In his early college career, Frank
attended the University of Arizona in Tucson, where he joined the Kappa
Sigma fraternity. He finished his studies at the University of Texas at
Austin graduating with a BBA from the College of Business Administration
in the Spring of 1969.
Frank met the love of his life, Jane Anne Osborne, his senior year of
college. He hastily proposed to this beautiful woman from high school.
Knowing she was way out of his league, he married her within the year.
Frank and Janie would have celebrated their 50th wedding anniversary
this November, a feat Frank boasted proudly to all who would listen.
The
young couple began their life together and started a family in Lubbock,
Texas, where Frank had a successful banking career. Yet being a family
man was Frank’s most important ambition, so after 15-years of banking,
he and his young family returned to their childhood home of Pampa,
Texas, to raise their kids with extended family.
Until retirement, Frank
served as the Chief Financial Officer of the family-owned and operated
oil and gas business. A devout Christian, Frank served on the vestry and
as treasurer at St. Matthew’s Episcopal Church. He loved to coach his
son’s soccer games and sleep through his daughter’s dance recitals. When
his children moved to Dallas to attend college, Frank and Janie soon
followed. Family always first.
Frank’s life is characterized by three pillars of dedication – his
faith, his family, and Alcoholics Anonymous. Frank had a zeal for the
Lord and an insatiable appetite to grow in understanding his calling as a
child of God. Both his home and office bookshelves overflow in
theological texts and personal journals on his spiritual musings.
To his
last breath, Frank wanted nothing more than to be there for and to be
with his family. His wife, children, and grandkids felt likewise.
Frank’s calling as a Christian servant was fulfilled in his passion and
commitment to the men and women of Alcoholics Anonymous, where he
brought both leadership and compassion to his multi-level involvement.
His thoughtful, articulate manner of expressing himself was an
inspiration to all who knew him and his leadership on The Adult
Rehabilitation Ministry Executive Board was an excellent example of how
he put servanthood to others above his personal needs.
Loved ones who will miss Frank until we meet again are his wife Janie
Osborne, daughter Erin Osborne Schmerbeck, son Ryan Osborne, son-in-law
Vic Schmerbeck, daughter-in-law Susanne Osborne, grandchildren Sarah
Kate Farmer, James Farmer, Estee Piccagli, Reese Osborne, and Sydney
Osborne, brother Michael James Osborne, sister-in-law, Dana Sprute, and
brother-in-law Rick Leverich.
A memorial service will be held in the chapel at Saint Michael and All
Angels Church, 8011 Douglas Avenue, Dallas, Texas 75225 on Tuesday,
August 13, 2019, at 3:00 PM. A celebration of Frank’s life will follow
at Dallas Country Club from 4:00-6:00 PM. In lieu of flowers, Frank
would be blessed by a contribution to Alcoholics Anonymous –
www.ctb.aa.org
Frank was a pretty rich man. His house at 3900 Stonebridge in Dallas earned him an internet posting as the "King of Turtle Creek". For the last year, He and Janie lived high up in the Ritz Carlton in a big residence with a huge covered patio and outside areas on three sides.
But like many successful men who are looking at their mortal end, Frank grew more and more spiritual in his later years. In one of our last talks alone, he talked about the writings of some
Jesuit Priest that he liked a lot. As he talked about the writings, I interrupted and said, "Do you mean
Pierre Teilhard de Chardin? He is one of my favorites."
"
Yes", he said.
We had reached our own
Omega Point in our own
Noosphere.
And there was no place left to go.
So long cowboy,
Vaya con Dios.
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